Life is a delicate dance between mystery and certainty. We sometimes have a glimpse of the former, albeit fleetingly, but settle for the latter as it offers a sense of security. It provides a reassuring road map as we negotiate unpredictable terrains in our lives. In that pursuit we often adhere to a path which we believe is preordained. As a consequence we hesitate to venture and explore myriad trails that can uncover different ways of living and being. Stepping into the unknown is fraught with fear and unease.
What qualities do we need to acquire in that pursuit? John Keats, whose birthday is today, suggested that we need to embrace a state of ‘negative capability’ which he described eloquently as “when a man is capable of being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching after fact and reason.” What he alluded to is perhaps to emphasise that uncertainty can be a creative force with boundless possibilities if we are able to harmonise ambiguities of life without constraining them within rational systems. This framework guides me in my therapeutic work. Clients often enter into therapy in uncertain phases of their lives amidst the throes of painful upheavals. Overwhelmed with distress, they look for answers that can mitigate their suffering.. from the therapist. My effort is to provide a space to facilitate and empower the client to seek answers within themselves. In that quest I foster a climate of negative capability in the client so that they can acknowledge and explore possibilities that emanate, to work through their uncertainties. Though I attend to this task with professional knowledge accrued through theoretical inputs and an empathic stance attuned to suffering, I also have to nurture and hone my skills in negative capability. In pursuit of that, I strive to remain in that unknowing state, adopting a reflective stance and gently let the emotional core of the interaction guide the processes. To paraphrase Keats, I continue to be “enchanted by the flowing complexity” of the therapeutic interaction. This I believe is the essence and beauty of psychotherapy. It is akin to listening to Miles Davis’s “Kind Of Blue” and his use of space between the notes. He remarked, “Don’t play what’s there, play what isn’t there.” Often I sense this when I see two birds flying across a boundless sky…what unites them is the vastness which they are trying to fathom… Would love to have a glimpse of your responses here!
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Alok Bajpai
10/30/2022 08:53:16 pm
Uncertainty ...surely is life with all its complexity
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Dr Raguram Ramanathan
10/30/2022 10:18:55 pm
And thar's the task of the therapist to fathom and learn
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Rathna Isaac
10/30/2022 09:43:26 pm
So beautifully put- and so true of what we end up doing as therapists.
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Dr Raguram Ramanathan
10/30/2022 10:20:17 pm
Thanks Rathna. Psychotherapy unfortunately has been compartamentalized and 'promoted'. It is time to discover what Jerome Frank said decades ago!
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Sanghamitra Iyengar
10/30/2022 10:04:38 pm
That was beautiful. Just as the creative process need uncertainty to evolve and amaze, I guess the therapeutic process can use uncertainty to accept one's own vulnerability and thus empowering the client. The Romantics were mostly identified at the superficial level. They had so much more to offer.
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Dr Raguram Ramanathan
10/30/2022 10:22:04 pm
More and more I tend to feel that as therapists we negotiate these processes, there is a dire need for supervision of the therapist
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bala fischer
10/31/2022 03:04:48 am
Yes indeed, Sir. Quality supervision for the therapeutic process is an essential factor to navigate therapy where the therapist doesn’t overwhelm the patient with his/her ‘wisdom’ while allowing the patient to develop personal problem mitigating strategies. Your comparison of Keat’s negative capability to the therapeutic process is genius, Sir. And it makes profound sense.
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Dr Raguram
10/31/2022 05:41:16 pm
Thanks Bala!
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Ranjini Rajgopalan
10/31/2022 08:47:40 pm
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Dr Raguram
10/31/2022 09:20:02 pm
The task is to keep the doors of the unknown open within and outside!
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Nikhita Kulkarni
10/31/2022 10:27:37 pm
This write up reflects beautifully about one's struggle with uncertainties only to realise that most answers lie within us, which when facilitated by a therapist makes the journey seem less difficult.Wonderfully put indeed!
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Arun Kishore
11/1/2022 11:50:00 pm
You have touched the heart of the therapeutic process (in my understanding) through those beautiful lines. The person enters therapy filled with the fear of not knowing. We help them to become curious, explorative and playful with that state, only by being able to be in that state ourselves, authentically.
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Anbudorai
11/2/2022 01:58:23 am
A thing of beauty ,a joy forever ♾️ his brief life,blindeningly beautiful lines r proof .
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Lat
11/4/2022 07:48:34 am
Your musings are so lyrical and truly reflective of the journey of a therapist. It reminds me of the many moments of uncertainty I have faced during therapy. For Therapy to flow through these moments I think we need to evolve as mature therapists.
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Vasudha Rao
11/21/2022 04:45:43 am
I remember you mentioning 'negative capability' in one of your talks, Sir. Beautiful and profound write up. Thank you
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